Friendly Relations with the People Around
1 You depend on all the people closely around you to give you the warm feeling of belongingness (归属感) that you must have to feel secure. But,in fact, the members of all the groups to which you belong also depend on you to give that feeling to them. A person who shows that he wants everything for himself is bound to be a lonely wolf.
2 The need for companionship is closely related to the need for a sense of belongingness. How sad and lonely your life would be if you had no one to share your feelings and experiences. You may take it for granted that there always will be people around to talk to and to do things with you and for you. The important point, however, is that keeping emotionally healthy does not depend so much on having people around you as upon your ability to establish relationships that are satisfying both to you and to them.
3 Suppose you are in a crowd watching a football . You don’t know them. When the is over, you will go your separate ways. But just for a while you had a feeling of companionship, of sharing the feeling of others who were cheering for the team you wanted to win.
4 An experience of this kind gives the glue to what comPanionship really is. It depends upon emotional ties of sympathy, understanding, trust, and affection. Companionships become friends when these ties are formed.
5 When you are thrown in a new circle of acquaintances (熟人), you may not know with whom you will make friends, but you can be sure that you will be able to establish friendships if you show that you really like people.

• A. Close link between companionship and belongingness
• B. How to satisfy other people’s needs
• C. An example of a satisfying relationship
• D. Difficulties in establishing friendships
• E. What companionship really is
• F. friends with new acquaintances

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